|Conflict is the spirit of the relationship asking itself to deepen. – Malidoma Some |
Why does money often foster so much conflict? If we understand money is an instrument of separation, then the conflict it engenders might be trying to bring us closer, so that together we can heal the original traumas of genocide, land ownership, slavery. If that is so, without conflict resilience, we can’t get to healing.
What if trauma can only truly transform into healing through the heat of conflict? Think of the transformation made possible by compost, fermentation, even controlled forest fires.
If we want to transform exploitative economics into sacred economics; genocide and slavery into reparations and reconciliation; private ownership into commons; then we must learn to harness the fires of our conflicts over money, resources, and wealth. The alternative is to skip over, dominate or suppress these conflicts, only to have the fires rage later and burn our collective house down. We have inherited trauma around money but we have inherited resilience too.
Bring your “money conflicts” – even the person you are having a conflict with! – and together we will practice in the space of community circling, a version of a 2,600 year old practice that the Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh called “Beginning Anew,” which he and his community adapted for our times, for all communities.
Note: This session is limited to 20 participants. You can sign up for a slot upon arrival (please arrive a few minutes early!)
|Felise Nguyen is a mediator, circle keeper and Restorative Justice practitioner. She is also a dedicated practitioner of Zen Buddhist meditation and cultivating her own capacity for interbeing, building sangha/community and embracing conflict to harness healing, connection and creativity. Previously, she was a litigator at Debevoise & Plimpton LLP and was the Special Envoy to Vietnam for the European Commission’s Forestry Law Enforcement Governance and Trade program, where she worked with businesses, civil society, governments, and environmental stakeholders to develop an international agreement to protect forests in Southeast Asia. Felise was also the founder and keeper of an eco-hotel on Phu Quoc Island, Vietnam, where she received her deepest education in relationship and interconnection. For many years, Felise was a Circle Keeper for Hidden Water, a non-profit that offers restorative justice circles for individuals and family systems affected by childhood sexual abuse, and from that experience believes that there is no trauma that cannot be healed. She currently mediates for couples who are separating/divorcing, facilitates circles for communities based in the Hudson Valley, and is working on a restorative community accountability pilot project with the Restorative Justice Initiative. A Fulbright Scholar and certified mediator, Felise holds a BA in Economics from Barnard College, Columbia University, and a JD from the University of Chicago Law School.|